Over the last couple of weeks there have been a string of teen suicides involving gay teens who were being tormented (bullying is so overused.. ) by their peers. One kid was outed on the internet by his college room-mate. Imagine, if you will, someone you were forced to live in close confines with playing a video of you having sex ON THE INTERNET. Without your consent, or knowledge. Imagine how horrifying that might be for you. Regardless of who you are having sex with.
Dan Savage, who writes a sex advice column, came up with the brilliant idea for the "It Gets Better" project... basically, a collection of videos where gay adults can let young people who may be grappling with their sexuality know that there is life after high school and that life will get better. Frankly, I think ANY kid who is being bullied can benefit from this. I sure could have. It was a huge relief finding out that all those heirarchies that exist in a high school and even public school environment DON'T MATTER when you're finally out in the 'real world'.
Of course, we get the dissent, as I mentioned yesterday like this jackass here (Again, trigger warning.) A commenter at Here and Now pointed out this story as well:
Some School Anti-Bullying Programs Push Gay Agenda, Christian Group Says
Imma file this under "Are you F***ing Kidding me??"
"What parents need to be aware of is there are activist groups who want to promote homosexuality to kids because they realize if they can capture hearts and minds of our children at the earliest ages they will have for all practical purposes won the clash of values that we are currently experiencing," - Candi Cushman, education analyst for Focus on the Family, said on recently launched website TrueTolerance.org.
Seriously? I have to laugh at the irony of the 'TrueTolerance.org' I also love the idea one can sell a certain sexual orientation to kids. No, sorry.. the idea is not to promote, the idea is to let kids that are having issues with their sexuality to say 'You're okay. Be who you are'.
Now, I have issues with Anti-bullying legislature (yes, even as a former victim) because frankly, I think a big part of the problem is that parents need to stop teaching their kids to be such little shit-heads. Seems pretty friggin' simple to me. However, some parents refuse to do this, as I learned at a young age when the parent of the kid who spent a year throwing pine cones, then iceballs, then eventually ROCKS at me at my bus-stop until I finally got hit in the mouth, responded to my mother's complaint by saying "Well, YOUR daughter was swearing at my daughter."
SHE WAS THROWING ROCKS AT MY FRIGGIN' HEAD. DAMN RIGHT I'M GOING TO SWEAR AT HER!!!
So, there are Those Parents who won't teach their kids not to be shit-heads, and there are kids who, for some reason or another, won't bring it to their parent's attention when they are the ones being victimized. I was one of those kids, and why, I have no idea. Hell, I was skipping school in the third grade to avoid the douchebaggery of my fellow classmates. I had no reason not to tell my parents, I just didn't. For this reason, it is necessary to have some boundaries in place in schools to prevent this behaviour. But to say that the legislature shouldn't have any focus on one of the more marginalized groups of students because of a 'clash of values' is absurd at best, dangerous at worst.
Basically, the message I get from their stance is "What's a few gaybo's offing themselves if it means our kids don't catch 'teh ghey'."
Mrs. Lovejoy's of the world, I think you need to rethink your priorities. Think of the children, indeed.
Think of YOUR children. If this was your child, would you not want someone to stand up for their right to be who they are and love who they love? As a parent, I'd rather my kid be gay than dead, any day of the week.
Maybe Ms. Candi Cushman of Focus on the Family needs to take a moment and focus on the families who are grieving right now for their lost children.. children they lost to hatred, intolerance, and bigotry. May these poor boys rest in peace.
Billy Lucas, Age 15
Tyler Clemente, Age 18
Asher Brown, Age 13
Seth Walsh, Age 13