- I wanted to have the same last name as my children. I got over that.
- I thought you had to be officially divorced to revert to your maiden name. You don't.
- It seemed like a lot of hassle to change two letters. That's right, there are TWO letters difference between my maiden name and my married name. Yeah, I got over that too.
Did you know that assuming your spouses name isn't the same as a legal name change? I honestly didn't know this. As a result it's a hell of a lot easier to change back if you have your birth certificate kicking around. I think the main issue is remembering all the stuff that your name goes on, and making sure you don't run into issues (I.E. if the lady at the MTO hadn't mentioned it I would have TOTALLY forgot to get my ownership changed - now I have to call my insurance company to change THAT etc etc)
The reasons I finally decided to change back were based on a few factors:
- The ex-hubster got re-married. With he and I, and the girls stepmom actively involved in their schooling, two Mrs. (or Ms.) H's is just confusing.
- Since getting married and subsequently divorced, and learning quite a bit about the practice of spouse-name-assumption and how it ties in with past ideas about wives as the property of their husbands, I'm not particularly in agreement with it. Should I marry again (which is not out of the realm of possibility.. I'm not sour to the idea) I might not want to assume their name. Which would be a lot easier to argue if I'm not still using the former boy's name.
- That person, that's just not me anymore.
I still worry about how the girls feel about it, but I've explained my feelings to them about it. I'm not trying to distance myself from THEM, at all. Mainly I used the "there can't be two of us" explanation, though. It seems to be the one that seems most logical to them.
And Now, another Musical Interlude